So That… (#34)

I love that little phrase, “so that”. It’s a short transition statement that packs a big punch. Have you ever thought about it?

The phrase “so that” is used to convey purpose, to clarify the why of something.

In the last post I mentioned that I recently made a big career move. That move was based on my so that.

I have had a pretty interesting career path, from correctional officer to CFO, from contracts manager to Vice President – I made a few moves, accepted several promotions, and held executive positions of influence and responsibility. I’ve worked with incredible people, viewed the political sausage-making up close and have had experiences most people are never afforded. It’s been a good run. Yet, the years of working 70+ hours a week in demanding, high-stress positions have, at times, taken a toll on my health and relationships, and stole way too much of my precious time and focus.

Perhaps approaching my 50th year of life also had something to do with it? I felt that it was time and the right opportunity came along. So, I took my own advice, evaluated my personal definition of success (see blog post #22), and moved in another direction. I am now the executive director at an amazing church…and I love it! I’m using my talents and skills to more directly further the kingdom of God. What the world may think I “lost” in terms of pay and fancy titles I “gained” in purpose, satisfaction, and time for family and my other purpose-filled interests – like this blog, book writing and launching a new website (coming soon!). I definitely made a quality trade.

All SO THAT I can fulfill my purpose.

We all need to know our purpose. Our purpose is like a compass that helps us find our way when we’re lost. Losing sight of your purpose can lead to unnecessary hopelessness and despair. We were never meant to live in hopelessness and despair.

Someone I care deeply about recently took his own life. It is a tragic, senseless, and devastating loss. He fell into despair…he lost his so that.

Every life was created intentionally by God on purpose and for a purpose. We all have a so that.

What is the so that in your life? What is that purpose in your life that drives everything else? If you’re not sure, spend some time this week to think about it. You DO have one, and we all need you to see it through!


Enough Work Satisfaction (#33)

I mentioned in the last post that I left my company after 25 years. I didn’t exactly retire – still a bit too young for that – but I decided to make a major change nonetheless. I downsized my paycheck (substantially) and upgraded my life. And I’ve never been happier!

I was not expecting this move at all – but when the Lord led me to this new opportunity, I lost all fear and embraced the joy and satisfaction of this Enough Life change. I know this seems quite contrary to the traditional American ideological path to happiness – climb the ladder, increase your income, buy toys and other symbols of supposed success. But, as we have explored in other posts, there is a point of diminishing returns where the striving actually leads to emptiness, burnout, and a lack of satisfaction.

True satisfaction does not come from things (toys, income, or prestigious titles). One need only look at the tragic deaths of Kate Spade, Robin Williams, Marilyn Monroe, and Anthony Bourdain (to name just a few) to realize that money, fame, and toys do not create a satisfied life. In the Biblical book of Ecclesiastes, king Solomon wrote, “I had everything a man could desire! …I denied myself no pleasure. I even found great pleasure in hard work, a reward for all my labors. But as I looked at everything I had worked so hard to accomplish, it was all so meaningless – like chasing the wind. There was nothing really worthwhile anywhere.” (Ecclesiastes 2:8b-11 NLT)

I had been on that path for many years, and I had achieved much in the eyes of the world. Yet, I realized over the last few years that the higher paycheck came with an increasingly costly personal price tag. I was paying a high price in some very real ways to maintain the salary. I was working nearly all the time, I was pouring myself into work that seemed eternally futile, and I was too often neglecting friends and family in order to meet the relentless demands of my work. I earned a nice salary but was too distracted and exhausted to enjoy it. Much of the time I was unhappy and unfulfilled in my work life. It turns out that this move was the next logical step in my own Enough Life journey. The new position is a much better alignment for me in many ways:

  • Values alignment – organizational values matching my personal values and beliefs
  • Lifestyle alignment – proximity to home, less commute time, less stress, fewer hours, less expense, less “P” politics
  • Goal alignment – my life’s purpose along with the organization’s purpose

In the Book of Ecclesiastes, king Solomon concluded, “So I decided there is nothing better than to enjoy food and drink and to find satisfaction in work. Then I realized these pleasures are from the hand of God.” (Ecclesiastes 2:24 NLT) We find true vocational satisfaction when the mission of the organization is in alignment with our personal values and world view, and when we can use our skills to fill a critical organizational need. This truly is a blessing from above!

This week:

If your current work is not a good alignment for you, what are some other ways you can create alignment and increase satisfaction in life? Are there organizations with which you do have alignment and to which you could volunteer? Are there professional groups in alignment with your values/world view to which you could participate? Where could you find satisfaction that you are making a difference in the areas most meaningful to you?